31 Days of Parenting Littles: Visit
Being a parent really changes your social life. When you have your first and your friends aren't yet having children, it can really drastically change things! We had Zak sooner than we were planning on having children, and we were the first in our circle of friends to have kids. We were never big on schedules, and Zak slept amazingly while we were out as long as we were wearing him, so we never saw a reason for cutting down on visiting friends, going to braais, etc, but not all our single or young married friends felt comfortable having a baby around or knew that we would still be happy to come, so invitations became a bit few and far between.
Of course, we were a bit spoiled by Zak sleeping well when we were out. It wasn't the case with Josiah, who was easily overstimulated and would have night terrors if he didn't get enough sleep during the day. For him to get enough sleep, he needed to be at home in bed, so I finally understood my mommy friends who planned everything around naptimes, and suddenly it was me turning down activities or rescheduling things to work better with naps.
Nowadays it's often easiest to have people come to us, especially for our friends who don't have kids- then they don't have to worry about their house being child-friendly. But....with kids comes a whole lot of mess. We had some friends pop 'round earlier today unexpectedly and the house is a MESS. We loved seeing them, and trust me, we are always happy to have friends visit- adults to talk to! SCORE! So please, please visit us. But if you aren't comfortable with a messy house, give us a few days warning.