31 Days of Parenting Littles: Rest
When I think about rest, one of the first thing that comes to mind (and probably for most parents) is sleep. Sleep is a major concern for all parents of young children. As soon as your baby arrives, people start asking you about how they're sleeping. It usually goes something like this- "How are things going? Is he/she a good baby? Are they sleeping through yet?" All of that is lumped together into one thought: How things are going is supposed to depend on how good your baby is, which is determined by how well they sleep. If your baby sleeps, they're a good baby, and things are going well. If not...?
Well, personally, I find that a load of hogwash. Babies aren't DESIGNED to sleep through the night. Their tiny tummies are designed to have small, frequent meals. That's the best way for them to receieve enough nutrients, keep up breastmilk supply if breastfeeding, and it cuts down on digestive issues like constipation and cramping. Frequent night waking also reduces the risk of SIDS. There are many reasons a baby wakes during the night, and none of them have to do with the baby being "bad", "manipulative". or any other negative thing. The baby wakes because...they're a baby!
That said, Anneke and Josiah have both slept fairly long stretches from the start. Zak was our super-frequent waker. But you know what? He was a wonderful baby- just like his younger siblings! Sleep has nothing to do with it.